Had To Get Rid Of My Own Mother To Save My Marriage Today
My husband and I really are soul mates. We sincerely loved each other right from the minute we first met at a school dance. We both went home that night (little did we know) and said to our parents that tonight we actually met the person we were going to get married to. Directly after we got hitched, we moved with my parents to look for work and then start our new lives. It was exciting, but we didn’t have a house of our own to live straight away.
My father talked us into living together with them for a while until eventually we were money-wise sound enough to get our own place. Little did we know, a month after moving into the new house together with them, my father would leave my very own mother, leaving us to look after my legally blind mama and my younger brother. We took over for paying for the bills and keeping things going in the proper direction, along with making use of my mother’s disability checks.
Officially, the house was still my mothers, simply because it was in her name, and all of the possessions there were hers except for what we had in our own bedroom. We lived by her rules of the house still, just as I always did growing up as a youngster. Call when you are on your way home, tell me your plans, each time are you coming and going, disclose your financials….. Really still a child in a mother’s home.
We paid our share of the property payment, bills, food, etc and for some time it was working. We had our quarrels and such, nevertheless mainly everything went along smoothly. We were basically just frustrated we still had most of our possessions in our bedroom, were still living by my mother’s rules of the home, and still hadn’t moved ahead with a life of our own.
At the 10 year marker it became noticeable that we were definitely slipping away from one another. My husband and I were fighting more, which resulted in more fighting with my very own mother, and typically the question came up whether or not I loved him above my family. In one particular argument, he told me that I must make a choice: my very own mother or him. Needless to say, later in conversation, my own mother gave me the exact same ultimatum.
I searched my own heart and did a save my marriage today review. Although I would always love my mama and always would like to be close to her, it was becoming more and more clear that we could not share a place living the way we did. I had to inform her that we could not live together any longer to save my marriage. By now, my parents had been dating again for quite a while and they had decided to get remarried, so it wasn’t like she didn’t have anywhere to go.
I just told her that my husband is my future and the rest of my life. Though she will always be my mama and an important part of my life, I wanted to move ahead with my life along with my husband by my side. To be able to do this, we really need our own space, build our own personal life, and make it happen on our very own.
I still adored her and I didn’t want to mess up our relationship by always fighting. Understanding this was the starting point towards years of joy and happiness to come. We went our separate ways with our living arrangements, but then we became much closer as a family due to the fact that we were living separately. My hubby and I became much closer than ever and found our initial love growing with our new life together. At the end of the day, we actually had to get rid of my very own mom to save my marriage today review.


Posted August 30, 2011
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